“You have said that there are no goals in life…no purpose. Yet we are all here with enlightenment as our goal. Can you explain this?”
“If you are here with enlightenment as your goal, you cannot be here.
Physically you may appear to be here but you cannot be with me.
The goal is in the future.
I am here and the goal-oriented mind is bound to be in the future.
We will never meet.
I know, you are here to attend something [to be spiritually enlightened].
But that’s why you are missing it.
I am here to persuade you…
“The lesser time you spend forcing yourself to do things, the happier you will be.”
So much wisdom in this: if you expended most of your days doing things you wanted to do (i.e. not forcing yourself to do them), you’d finish the day physically tired but mentally charged. This is where happiness lies. Ask yourself: what do you force yourself to do? How can you change that? Is there a way you can fall in love with it? Can you make it easier? Or can you eliminate it? …
I’ve never thought about how to be happy for most of my life. You might agree. I know what pleasure is, I know what excitement and joy is. Is happiness something of a mix of these things? If so, where does happiness come from? How is it created? The absence of happiness might be clearer (maybe): in sadness, in depression, in pain; surely happiness cannot exist among these?
While there may be significant subjectivity to how we individually define happiness, I think it is safe to assume that most of us would accept the following: happiness is the feeling that…
There’s a powerful insight that the famous leadership guru, Robin Sharma, shared on stage:
“I believe that the reason we don’t have energy, the reason that we are not as creative as we want, the reason why we’re not as productive as we want is because we have betrayed our talent and the deep, wise primal hero within knows of that self-betrayal. And we start to hate ourselves.”
The idea here is that much of our disappointments in life are a product of our betrayal of what the primal hero within us wants from us. …
This Halloween, my wife wanted to decorate our front yard with some spooky-faced balloons. Excitedly, we filled several balloons with helium, drew our attempts at spooky faces on them, and attached plantable sticks at the bottom of each balloon’s string so that they’d float while secured into the lawn. We rushed out in the front yard and were instantly disappointed that none of the balloons floated upwards despite being heavily filled with what I’d now call compromised, questionable helium.
But there was a good outcome — at least for me.
Seeing all these grounded balloons all over the grass it…
If you’ve read my other work then you know that I am obsessed with the power of questions. I strongly believe that if we can ask ourselves the right questions in life, we can make incredible changes for a happy and more fulfilled life.
One thing that I have been keen on is finding ways to break the automation that our lives are entrenched in. Think about it: you wake up, put yourself together, do what you need to for your family, get to work, eat, sleep, rinse and repeat. …
A lot of people look for a life purpose before they really start putting their minds into something. I am convinced that this mis-guided interpretation of the word is incredibly dangerous. It is the reason why so many young professionals quit their jobs in less than a year with, “I want to make a real difference. This isn’t it.” The misery starts when they can’t find anything to satisfy whatever they are fantasizing. Don’t get me wrong, some places aren’t built to create change in the world. Leave those. …
You are an optimist. You wake up every single day trying to get the best out of life. You dream big to find meaning. You work hard to win accolades and respect.
Your optimism is commendable. But friend, life is full of inevitable painful surprises. And your lack of awareness of them means that when you do face them, your stability will be tested, your emotional control will be tested, and your outlook on the world ahead of you will be vulnerable to being seriously damaged.
But as you’ve heard it numerous times before, knowledge is power.
And so today…
We all dream to be happy. We dream of a new job, a good partner, a big house, a happier life. What doesn’t come easy is turning dreams into reality.
Because turning dreams into reality takes action. And action is hard. As Steve Garguillo once said, “Action is a muscle”. Action requires planning, patience, consistency, and commitment.
But here’s the truth: success will only come from the tough actions you take.
No one will ever hand you anything. It just doesn’t work that way. No one will care that you aren’t happy and hand you your dreams. This time…
We all know Dave Chapelle as a masterclass in comedy. After creating one of the most commercially successful programs on television, The Chapelle Show, Dave walked away from a $100 million renewal contract in 2005. He just didn’t want to do it anymore.
I respect that tremendously. As should you. Following your heart despite all the lures of the material world — comfort, instant gratifications, stability — is noble. But that’s not what I want to talk about today.